It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody.
It took me decades to forgive my mother.
It took me about as long to forgive my ex-husband.
And as ridiculous as it sounds, I even resented my grandfather for dying while I was too young. Yes, I was that serious.
Also, I shared the same room with a cousin who told a lie on me. I did not speak to her for two years.
My unforgiveness and resentment caused me to blindly make decisions that brought me much regret.
For example, in the past I made myself miserable thinking I had to have a husband. This I found out later, was based on the fact that I never knew my father. My grandfather was both father and mother to me. I was always seeking “family”.
I found clarity in what a mate should be only when I let go of the hurt and resentment. By freeing myself to love. I discovered what a true family meant.
Only then was I able to unconditionally love my children. Only then did I feel the courage to go it alone. Only then could I live.
Holding on to grudges might be easy. It’s sometimes our way of making ourselves feel better. If we can focus on blaming, then we don’t have to accept responsibility to move forward.
It’s understandable but not productive. It’s called having baggage!
Let it go. Get rid of it. Kick it to the curb.
If you did not plan to raise your child/children alone. Or if your idea of child rearing was alongside a loving and supportive father. You may have a right to vent.
But forgiveness is for you.
Practice it. Exercise it. Embrace it.
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Your children deserve your full attention. Be free to love them unconditionally.
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. Eph. 4:31-32 (NIV)