Blogging for fun

And resolving to enjoy the life I have

I love blogging

I’ve spent the last couple of months or so wondering why I’m blogging.

It’s not that I didn’t have good intent when I started.  It’s not that I didn’t know what I was doing. As a matter of fact, I was really excited about writing, blogging, whatever.  I loved to get a thought, have an experience or bump into a new discovery I can share. I envisioned I could share something that either helped or entertained.

Either way.  It was my way to serve in a fun way.

But somewhere, something not so pleasant happened.  I think I got way too serious.

I started listening to the podcast “gurus” and reading what they were all writing.  I basically drank the Koolaid.  I began to worry about subscription lists and niching down to my underwear.  I didn’t feel “serious” enough about what I was doing.  I was spending lots of money and way too much time trying to “engage”.  Why wasn’t I as “successful” as “they” said I should be?

Also, I was overwhelmed by the tens of thousands of unread emails in my blog’s inbox. I know I would never get to them. Not to mention the multiple “come hither” invitations to subscribe or to buy a course in this or that.

It wasn’t bad enough that I was being targeted multiple times a day by the same people.  I was also getting emails introducing me to the same people I was getting the multiple emails from. It’s insane!


Taking a Leap of Faith to Blog my Passion


Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.  Brian Tracy.
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I took a hiatus from my blog recently to contemplate my next move.

Actually, I decided that in order to truly follow my passion — blogging about my personal experiences while providing a helpful resource to my audience — I needed to move to self-hosting. Sensing I was just “blogging” and not writing my heart, I took a leap of faith into the world of self-hosting on

First, I scoured through some online resources on blogging such as the article by Susan Gunelius,  10 Steps to Start a Blog with  I also did some reading on the support forum about transferring a blog.  WordPress does a very good job in providing easy to follow instructions for its users.

Next I watched this video by Christina Warren HOW TO: Transfer Your Blog From to [VIDEO].  I found this post quite useful and informative.  I was able to get a sense of what I was in for just enough to take the plunge.  But if I thought it was going to be an easy process, I was a bit mistaken.  I took the following steps based on my research:

1.  I created a Bluehost web hosting account and attempted to transfer my domains (I own both the .com and .co version of my web address). My domains were being hosted by iPage. I could not, however, at the time move my .com address because due to a billing mishap, my ownership was reset to May 2015.  And, because of  ICANN rules, you cannot transfer your domain from one host to another unless you have owned that domain for more than 60 days.

So I proceeded to transfer my .co domain.

2. After generating my EPP code, I went on to transfer my domain, which included changing my name servers.

3. I “exported” my blog files to my desktop computer.  Incidentally, if you are using a Mac, you will need to create a folder first and then download your files to that folder.  This is because the MAC platform unzips the files and you end up with a mish-mash of files instead of one neat folder.  I obtained this little nugget from Tyler Moore’s video.  He’s a bit obnoxious but if you cut through the drivel, there is some very useful information there.

4. This is where things got a little complicated.  I purchased a new “responsive” theme from Mojo Marketplace, Bluehost’s site partner.  I also asked Mojo to install the theme to look like the purchased theme (cost: $149).  This is because these types of themes seldom looks like the original.  Completion time promised was 1-3 days.  However, after 3 days, nothing was done.  It took a few phone calls, and emails before I was able to get a reply from Mojo.  Further, it took 5 days instead for my blog to become live.

I’m relating these details so others may not make the same mistakes I made.  I have no issues with Mojo now and I will definitely use their service again. I didn’t use the Wunderful theme I paid for.  That is because it was more difficult to customize than other themes I could obtain for free…anything but wonderful.  A very expensive lesson indeed!

Takeaways from this experience:

1. does keep the “” so basically your original site is still fully operational.  I didn’t know this at the time which caused me some obvious angst.

2. Choose a free “workable” theme, when you first transfer your blog.  There are so many free themes, you are bound to find one that works immediately until you feel comfortable enough to move up to one of the more “powerful” themes.

3. Having continued access to my old account on made the process more comfortable….a bit like moving into a new house while still having full access to your former house.

Though still a work in progress, I’m basically satisfied with my blog.

So as stated earlier, the main reason for this major change is that I want to blog my passion.  I’ve always wanted to tell stories that reflect my life experiences with the wish that it would help other single mothers.  I feel this moved has enhanced my ability to do so.

Finally, I agree that “…blogging gives you a voice in this world. What you say can make an impact on someone else. You have a message. Your message is needed in the world”. quote by Jonathan Milligan in his book, The 15 Success Traits of Pro Bloggers: A Proven Roadmap to Becoming a Full-Time Blogger.  

I don’t want to waste this opportunity.


Still Blogging in 10 years? You Betcha!

Do you think you’ll still be blogging 10 years from now?  That is the question we are answering today for NaBloPoMo.

Absolutely.  I hope I will still be blogging 10 years from now.  I really want to blog everyday for the rest of my life.  OK so I can’t do that now but when I retire from full time employment I could definitely see myself blogging every day.

For me, inspiration to blog comes from so many sources.  A fleeting thought. A conversation I overhear.  Even a small experience like trying to get to work on the dragging No. 3 train.  There is no shortage of blogging material and I love to blog.  As a matter of fact, one of my dreams is to travel throughout the Caribbean and possibly a few other countries around the world.  I am so looking forward to blog about my travels and to post photos I plan to take.

Also, I have three sons. None of them are married yet. My hope is that they will eventually marry and have children.  Then I will be a grandmother!  So much blogging material to look forward to, I can’t contain myself. I know, crazy!  And wouldn’t all my years of blogging be a great chronicle to pass down to my grandkids?

Yes. I do believe I will be blogging for a very long time to come, God willing.  Way past 10 years from now.


Better Because of Blogging

Today’s NaBloPoMo question is: Does blogging bring out your best or worst self.  The theme for the month is “Self” hence the emphasis on myself.  I think this is a very good theme.  It allows me to remove the mask.  Because, if I don’t know myself, how am I going to get to know my audience? Also, how can I ask my audience to share with me honestly if I don’t want to reciprocate?  So, does blogging bring out my best or worst of myself?

I have to say the very best in some ways.  One of those ways is it help me to focus on something: With long hours at work, church and different classes, I tend to just flop down on the sofa and watch TV when I get home in the evenings. That is what I often did before I started blogging.  Now I can’t wait to get home and work on my next post.  Blogging has helped me to become more:

Engaged.  I have become more engaged in the blogging community.  I used to read blogs and may offer the odd comment or like.  But I did so half heartedly without much focus, sometimes merely skimming through posts.  Now I take the time to read those posts that peak my interest.  I also will leave, I think, a meaningful comment which really comes from my heart.  I reblog and repost not only posts that I find interesting but also those that I think others might find useful.  I am now reading for others as well, not only just for myself.

Attentive to social network connections.  Before I started blogging, I tended to rarely visit sites like Facebook, LinkedIn, and Twitter.  For instance, I can’t even remember the handle to two of my Twitter accounts.  Now I try to log on daily, take note of what my connections are talking about and more often than not, participate in conversations.

Open — maybe even vulnerable.  Although not quite as open as what I write in my journals, I tend to be more open in my writing now.  Blogging has allowed me the privilege to share with strangers, who actually take the time to read what I post. I appreciate that and hopefully can show that appreciation by revealing more of myself in future posts.

Blogging has really brought out my better self.  It has allowed me to be more open and socially engaging.  The practice of writing daily, gives me a platform to manage my time more efficiently while learning from others and sharing with the online community.

My Writing Voice

2014-03-04 21.52.48I’m trying to keep up with NaBloPoMo.  Today we are ask to tell “How is your writing voice like you?” and ” How does your writing voice differ from you?”

This one is difficult for me because I don’t even know if I know my writing voice. Sounds daft I know.  I think my writing voice is more me than not me.  It’s sincere, I believe. I try to write what I feel from my heart.  I listen to my heart before I write and if what I write does not feel right I will change it.  I think about what readers will understand from my they will relate.  I do not want people to be offended by what I write so I will try to be diplomatic.  I want readers to understand the point I’m trying to make. However, I will not lie to get a point across.  This I think is the real me.  Careful about offending because I prefer to show love and kindness, even when I lose the argument.

My writing voice differs from me in the sense that I’m more private. Things I divulge in my writings I would not normally tell others.  Maybe because I am under no obligation to share with others. However I feel I should be honest when I write and not hold things back to look “clean”.  And it is not that I hold things back in my verbal communication with others , it’s just that I operate on a need to know basis.  Have you ever met someone on the train or in the mall and you know their entire life story in less than an hour?  Sometimes really intimate stuff that embarrasses you?  I’m not one of those women.  I have been accused by friends of hiding things but I feel I should be loyal and trustworthy and not go blabbing everything I know, just to prove I “know”.  In writing though, when I decide to broach a subject, I feel I should write in a way that readers will understand what I am saying — get the full picture of my story.  Also, I think because I am new to blogging, my writing voice may be a bit awkward at times. I have no such issues personally.