A daughter’s wisdom

2014-07-22 14.20.43I was watching a DVD of Dr. Christiane Northrup’s Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdon on FMTV.com the other day. Actually, I really do watch it almost every week. She is so insightful and very funny.  Anyway, in listening to her, even at age 50+, I felt I was listening to a mother speaking lovingly to her daughter.  I realize that I never had a woman sit me down and tell me anything about how to be a woman, let alone how to be a wife and mother. There were no “birds and bees” talks and no preparation for even simple life events such as my monthly cycle. I can’t even remember anyone giving me even a tiny anecdote about life as a woman. I therefore stumbled through life as a teenager and bumbled my way through three marriages.  Not that there are any guarantees even with wise, motherly grooming.

Dr. Northrup also mentioned a personality by the name of Mama Gena and I decided to look her up and see what she was about.  In reviewing Mama Gena’s website and reading her book Mama Gena’s School of Womanly Arts, I was “violently” struck by how clueless I had been, growing up as a young woman without female adult leadership.  I do not agree with all her points in the book but some parts lead me to wonder what my life would have been like if my mother had taught me how to deal men and their “MARS-tian” behaviors.  Would I have gone through three marriages and divorces if I was clued into any of life’s little secrets some mothers share with their daughters? Would some gentle hand holding when I was heart broken over some young prince, help me to deal maturely with my future relationships? Who knows for sure?

What I do know is that by listening to Dr. Northrup (I also read her book “The Wisdom of Menopause”) I’m keenly aware for the first time,  what missing the experience of having a mother fully engaged in my life really means.  For instance:

  • there have been brief moments that I felt pangs of envy when I see a mother and her daughter shopping or discussing their upcoming vacation together.
  • I have been mildly jealous of a daughter gushing about how much she was looking forward to having a gab session with her mother.
  • And, there have been too many times when I wistfully admire a mother/daughter team participating in an event — even if they were just shopping for a home on House Hunters.

Fortunately (or unfortunately), I do not have a daughter.  There is no one to bond with in that special and unique relationship.  I’m not sure however, if I would have anything to offer her, especially in the area of communicating with men.  I certainly would not want her stumbling in my bloody footsteps — footsteps bloodied with the effects of too many mistakes.

Overall, despite having to figure out life for myself, I did not turn out too badly. Miraculously, I managed to turn on the inherent, motherly charm, hawk-like protection, and love for my sons with no thought of what I did or didn’t have. As a matter of fact, maybe I do go overboard sometimes just to make sure they aren’t “missing out” on life.  Fact is since I recognize that a mother can never take the place of a father, despite her best efforts, I seek to find positive, male role models for them.

So maybe in hindsight, life turns out for me exactly the way it should have. Truly I have no regrets or disillusions about what life should or shouldn’t  be. Through forgiveness and self love, I have learned to own my life and to take responsibility for my own actions, regardless of how well prepared I was for this game called life.

Super Juicing Me: Standing up to a Challenge

wpid-wp-1401535464783.jpegOn Monday, June 2, I will begin my participation in two challenges; Writing 101 by WordPress and SuperJuiceMe 28 day detox program.  Yes, I will be consuming nothing but good, organic nutrients from June 2-29!

Ok. I must admit I love a challenge.  And though I get bored easily, the juicing challenge is right up my ally.  I have been juicing for about 10 years and I seldom leave the house without a homemade smoothie containing fresh fruits, vegetables and super foods such as avocado and cacao.

Why a 28 day detox?  I’m tired. Tired of ingesting large quantities of chemical medications while still not feeling, let alone getting better.  Blood pressure medication is expensive. The kidney damage from long term use is much more expensive in both money and quality of life.  A recent post I wrote relayed my frustration with the continuous roller coaster ride I am on while enduring the effects of high blood pressure on my well being.  What about protein you ask? First, I haven’t eaten any meat since February. And even though I sometime eat eggs and drink lots of milk, I get an abundance of protein from daily intake of spirulina, chlorella, and avocado.  Spirulina alone has gram for gram more protein than beef, fish, chicken or soybean. There will be lots of nuts and seeds on this program as well. For example, a cup of almond, which I will be getting plenty of, contain approximately 20g of protein.  So protein. Check!

Now to the movie SuperJuiceMe: One Disease. One Solution.  I watched this movie/documentary as part of my quest to learn even more about healthy eating and how to recharge my cells with nutrients instead of killing them with dead food and chemicals. I have also been watching and re-watching, Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead and Vegucated (both on Netflix).  I must say that after watching Vegucated, I definitely don’t see myself ever eating meat again.  If you choose to watch it, you will see why.  I have also watched Food Matters and Hungry For Change again.  So, I’m preparing myself mentally and educating myself as to what I am getting into.

If time permits, I will give weekly update on my progress whether on a static page or via updated posts. This will be an even more difficult challenge for me because I am also scheduled to participate in the JPMorgan Challenge (June 4) and the American Heart Association Heart Walk (June 18).  I do these annually but I did not want to do the detox over the summer and I didn’t want to leave it until Fall.

My plan was to have a complete physical yesterday but my doctor changed my appointment time.  I would have liked to get all my vitals plus blood work from him before embarking on this process but will have to wait until next Friday. Still I will have a medical professional take my blood pressure.  I will also weigh and measure myself tomorrow.

I spent today purchasing fruits and veggies from the Farmers Market and Whole Foods, to ensure I will be ready on Monday morning.  I purchased and downloaded the SuperJuiceMe app on my Android phone. The app includes a shopping list and videos on how to make each drink.  It also includes “coaching” videos for use throughout the plan.

By the way SuperJuiceMethe movie is free this weekend so check it out. Even if you are a skeptic.  I also hope you will come back to check on my progress as well as to read my Writing 101 posts.

6 Books That Have Influenced My Life

2014-03-31 23.22.15I started reading while I was very young.  In fact, my grandfather who raised me by himself started reading the Bible to me from ever since I can remember.  Growing up as an only child in the home, I often became lost in the adventures of Alice in Wonderland or a mysterious plot from a Nancy Drew book.  I trembled with excitement at the opportunity to acquire a new read and I must have been the only nine year old who was excited to go to the library.  Despite rules to the contrary, the librarian would allow me to borrow as many books as I could carry.  I loved and read all types of books but I abhorred romance — not sure why. I should look into that. (more…)